Hold the door open for me and call if you say you’re going to. Dorothy Price Hill: Men who cancel at the last minute—after I’ve booked a minimum four-hour sitter from an agency. What’s the single biggest mistake a guy can make on a first date?Kasey Woods: Asking way too many questions about my son’s father and our relationship.
Delia Lopez: Guys who think that just because I’m a single mom, I don’t require the same level of chivalry that any other woman deserves.The thing about figuring out how to date when you're a single mom is that it is exactly as simple, and exactly a boiling-hot messy as dating before you became a mom: you find someone you want to go out with, you somehow mutually express an interest in auditioning for one another over tapas, and then you spend the days and hours leading up to the date desperately trying to hide your shortcomings as a human being with Spanx and contouring.When you finally meet up, you get drunk enough to stop the impulse to rage-cut your bangs over the joke you made in the first 5 minutes that totally didn't land.(Trust me on this: I am one.) My single mom friends and I have experienced lots of first dates that we decided wouldn’t lead to second dates because our dates committed infamous “first date offenses.” These are true dealbreakers, so if you want a second (and third and fourth) date with that hot single mom you’re digging, take heed. A couple months ago, I went on a date with a guy who was looking to meet his bride at an altar. Within the span of knowing me for all but 45 minutes, he (1) mentioned that all of his friends were either in a serious relationship, engaged, or married, (2) told me he was looking to settle down, sooner rather than later, and (3) asked me, “So, what are you looking for in a relationship? We’re all looking for “The One,” but try not to make it seem as though you’re looking so hard. (I’m sure the fellas would be able to generate their own list of first date deal-breakers for those dating a single dad, but let’s just fight one battle at a time here.