It’s common for the newly separated to jump into a new relationship quickly; this is known as “rebounding.” Rebounding results from wanting to fill the void of loss and loneliness one feels after marital separation.
However, because rebound relationships are based on filling a void, rather than being ready to move on, they often fall apart quickly.
We only have control over whether we approach them or not.
Reconnection takes advantage of this subconscious process.
Twenty one yrs married , 3 kids , honest , financially successful ,wife gave the " I love you but ..." about 18 months ago , informed me of an EA / PA .
We have no control over who we become attracted to.your spouse to come back or work on saving your marriage need to be set aside for a bit.The main reason for this is that before your spouse desires to be with you, all attempts to convince will just result in rejection and a stronger resolve on your spouse’s part to end the marriage.For example, the judge might disapprove of the dating spouse's behavior and develop a bias against them.While such a bias is ostensibly unacceptable in the U. legal system, judges are human and biases are natural and even probable in some instances.